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Tuesday, August 13, 2013

This Adoptee Supports Dusten and Veronica Brown

I believe that Veronica should be allowed to stay with her father.  As an adoptee who had a father who wanted her, first families should always be given the choice of placement. To me, Matt and Melanie Capobianco have no standing in this case. I have been following the stories concerning this issue on Indian Country Today.  I also follow this news story because I lived in Nowata on Rural Route One.  I also worked at the Bartlesville Post Office.  My second daughter was born in Bartlesville.  I attended several Pow Wows up in the Dewey area along with a Cherokee PowWow.  I am in awe of the celebration of the Cherokee Nation in the area.  I respect the history and culture of the Cherokee Nation along with many other Native American nations in Oklahoma and other states. I am now the wife of man who has Blackfoot Native American history.  My personal opinions aside, this story has so many different elements and characters that it is mind boggling.

Nightlight Christian Adoption Services

This adoption agency has a crazy history that is associated with the darker side of adoption history.  This agency is the one that former President Bush lavishes his thanks upon.  They are involved in embryo adoptions also known as Snowflake Adoptions.  They are involved in embryo adoptions, international adoption, domestic adoption, and foster care adoption.  They earned a little over two million dollars.  They claim to be associated with A Helping Hand Adoption Agency.  They actually own the agency.  Ronald Stoddart is the president of Nightlight Christian adoption services while he is on the board of A Helping Hand Adoption Services.  A Helping Hand is their international adoption office.  They are a big promoter of Orphan Sunday.  They even have their own version--Orphan Galaxy.  They claim to help rescue children from child trafficking situations.  Adoption in itself is a form of child trafficking.  This agency works in Cambodia but sadly, the United States has banned all adoptions from that country.  They work in Nicargua, Aftrica (specifically Uganda),  China, Russia, and other Eastern European countries.  Ronald Stoddard also has his own law practice, Schmiesing, Blied, Stoddard and Mackey.  You can read much more here at Pound Pup Legacy.

Paul Clement

The attorney for the Copobiancos and the child advocate (hired by the Capobiancos) is none other than Paul Clement.  He was hired by the House of Representatives to defend the Defense of Marriage Act in April of 2011. Our House of Representatives spent 2.3 million dollars to defend this act which was recently overturned by the Supreme Court. He continued to defend the act even after the Department of Justice withdrew from the case.  He resigned from King and Spaulding to continue fighting for DOMA. He now works for Bankcroft PLLC.  He has appeared more before the Supreme Court than any other attorney since 2000.   He is the former Solicitor General of the United States.  He is currently a Georgetown Law Professor as well as an Adjunct Professor at NYU School of Law. He clerked for Judge Antonin Scalia as well as many other justices.

Chrissy Maldonado

She is the birthmother in this situation.  She worked at an Osage Casino.  She is also a noncustodial mother who has to pay child support to the paternal grandmother of her children.  She is said to have a very contentious and acrimonious relationship with the father of her first two children.  People wonder why she has lost custody.  I would garner a guess is that she is a classic alienator judging how she is in this case. As a former noncustodial mom myself, I do not support a woman who trash talks, alienates, and verbally abuses the father of her children.  She filed for her medical expenses to be paid by the state of Oklahoma which was never repaid back by the Capobiancos.  There are rumors of her receiving financial aid from the Capobiancos(approximately $10,000 to $40,000 which was not declared to the state of Oklahoma nor the IRS) exceeding the Oklahoma limit of $1,000 without court approval. She is an Oklahoma resident just like Dusten Brown.  Veronica was born in Oklahoma.  This case has jurisdiction in the state of Oklahoma.  After reading the court case,  the ICPC forms signed by Chrissy state that Veronica is Hispanic, not Cherokee which allowed the Capobiancos to remove Veronica out of state.  If this paperwork was properly annotated to reflect her Cherokee heritage, this child would be in the custody of her father long ago.  There seems to be some intent, both willfully and negligently, to deny Dusten access to his daughter plus deny his daughter her Cherokee heritage. There is a perpetuation of fraud and perjury running wild in this case.

Interesting enough as well, Chrissy has filed a lawsuit in federal courts to force Erik Holder to declare that parts of  the ICWA unconstitutional.  According to the lawsuit, Chrissy as well as other birthmothers state:
"But there is no federal interest,” the mothers stated, in halting a birth mother’s “state-law right to secure a fit and stable adoptive placement for her birth child and delegating that decision to a legal stranger (a tribe), on the basis of the child’s ancestry.”
 What Chrissy fails to understand is that no woman has the constitutional right to place her child for adoption just like no woman in this country has the right to an abortion.  She has the right to keep her pregnancy choices private but no absolute right to place a child for adoption nor have an abortion.  Even with that knowledge, there is no total anonymity either for her.  Once her daughter was born, there are two parents whose rights must be considered, the mother AND THE FATHER. 

Dusten Brown

Dusten is a registered member of the Cherokee Nation.  He is a decorated veteran of the Iraq War.  During all this time, he never spoke ill of the birthmother, Chrissy Maldonaldo, and the so called adopters, Matt and Melanie Capobiancos.  The agency and the Capobiancos waited until he was on lockdown with the military to terminate his rights.  He is a good, fit father who has the capability of raising his daughter.  He never intended to sign away his rights.  He has never used his military status to garner attention to his plight.  He never used his Native American status to garner attention to his plight.  He did what was right to protect his daughter from the media onslaught.  He kept her out of the media unlike the Capobiancos.  What people do not understand with the military, when you are on duty, you can't just get up and leave like you would with a regular job.  You have to get special permission from the military and your chain of command especially during a war time situation or on duty with the National Guard.

The Capobiancos, their lawyers, and their PR team, Trio Solutions began a media attack against Dusten Brown and his family.  They dissed his family and the Cherokee Nation.  They went on attack against a law that was put into place to protect all Native American nations and their families.  The ICWA was put into place to prevent the wholesale onslaught of forced adoptions by the United States.  Since 1869, the Indian Nations had been forced to relinquish their children until this law was passed in the seventies.  What people do not understand is that all declared Native American Nations are afforded sovereignty over their people, land, and laws.  While they may be a conquered nation, they are still a sovereign nation with its own laws concerning the children of their nation.  The ICWA supports that sovereignty. The United States does not have jurisdiction over the Native American nations in our country. Period. No more discussion.

Because the ICPC laws were circumvented by both the birthmother, the adoption agency, and the adoptive parents, this case needs to go back to Oklahoma to be decided.  South Carolina no longer has jurisdiction over this case.  This little girl belongs with her father.

Now that the judge in South Carolina has put down a gag order, maybe just maybe Dusten and his family will get some reprieve.  Maybe the Capobianco and Maldonaldo PR machine will stop.  Maybe the Christian Right will also stop and give this man a break.

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Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Love A Veteran? Sign Your Name to this Petition!

I have mentioned that I classify myself in different ways.  My life is affected by three different groups women's issues, adoptee issues, and veteran issues.  For a long time, I was just an adult adoptee.  Now that I am facing health issues resulting from my time in the U.S. Army, I am also a veteran, specifically a Desert Storm/Gulf War veteran.  My ex husband is one as well.  Now that my cousin is facing the same kinds of health issues, I realize that I can no longer stay silent or wait for the Veterans Affairs Administration to stand up and do the right thing.  It is a government entity that cares only for its own well being.  It is usually screw the vets attitude that hurts veterans country wide.  I can't stay silent because this affects not just my family and I but it also affects thousands of fellow Gulf War vets but new veterans from two ongoing conflicts. 

I filed a claim soon after leaving the service in 1996.  I was denied coverage  and compensation of any kind.  At that time, I claimed my left arm and nerve damage, female health issues, and cystic acne.  I was denied less than ten percent at the time.  I let it go.  The closest VA clinic/hospital at the time was in San Antonio.  We were too broke at the time to do anything. 

Fast forward twenty one years later, my health issues have advanced to critical stages.  My cystic acne is all over my body.  Every time a bump appears, it tunnels to another bump close by.  I no longer have my uterus and one of my ovaries, and my left arm has gotten so bad that I have no feeling in three of fingers and the lower half of it.  I have had six surgeries in the last six years.  I can not get the VA to tackle all of my health issues.  I have been called Mr. Burt more times than I can shake a stick at.  I have five dogs.  I have shaken a stick quite a few times.  I have had my pain levels ignored especially after surgery.  I have requested appointments only to be ignored.  I have PTSD with secondary bruxism.  I have nerve damage to the left side of my body.  My blood pressure is so low that I am now wondering if I have autonomic health issues.  My cystic acne has expanded to the groin, armpits, stomach, inside of my legs and my buttocks.  It is consistently ignored or passed the buck on.  The Micheal E. Debakey VA Medical Center has ignored my complaints and said that they were my fault. 

I am asking all that love me, respect me, and even hate me to please sign this petition.  Gulf War veterans deserve a treatment course other than treatment of symptoms.  I don't want to develop an addiction to narcotics.  I want to sleep through the night and wake refreshed.  I want to be active along side of the people that I love.  I want to live not survive.  It is what every Gulf War veteran wants.  We want our quality of life.  We gave our lives for our country.  We want our country to help us do so.

Gaming and Misogyny

I gotta love Facebook  My friends come up with some seriously good articles.  I have also liked pages like the Huffington Post, AlterNet, and now Upworthy.   These pages bring forth some seriously tough topics.  Sometimes they sugar coat the topic such as adoption, adoptees, and issues surrounding their families.  Being an adult adoptee, it is a subject that I feel needs massive reform starting with opening birth certificates to adoptees and their families.  There are, however, deeper issues that result from this topic.  It may be semantics to the pro life movement.  Women do have a choice when it comes to their bodies.  There is no single person who is pro death or pro abortion.  I personally believe that both adoption and abortion are tools used to diminish women and their God given role as life giver.  I am not one to fight against the rights and responsibilities of women and their choices.  These decisions are made by women every day according to their circumstances. I may not agree with their choices but I back them with my very life.  I am also a Gulf War/Desert Storm veteran

Sometimes I think that we have moved forward in regards to domestic violence and womens' issues.  I sadly come across this Upworthy Video about female characters in video games.  Anita Sarkeesian wanted to change those characters so that women in general would not be so sexualized.  Considering my children play video games, I would like female characters to be normal women, instead of hypersexed visuals for the male fantasy. I don't know a single female veteran who is a hypersexed woman.  This is not what war is like.  Women don't go around in a war time situation with their boobs busting out carrying a M-16.  It just doesn't happen.  BDUs are not sexy clothing for men or women.  You can check out Anita's video blogs yourself

The Huffington Post wrote about her and her project.  You can also follow the links as well.  I find it interesting that when men disagree with a woman's issue, men say that she needs to get laid or worse.  It really is shocking.  Would you say this stuff if she were your sister, your mother, your daughter or your wife?  I believe that men and women are different.  God did not intend for women to be treated so badly.  That is on man and man alone.  Men through out time have perverted the meaning of submission.  A woman needs to feel safe.  She needs to be able to trust.  This video games do NOT encourage that.  Why should I as a woman trust a man who plays these kinds of video games with who I am as a woman?  That is what this comes down to. 


Sunday, April 29, 2012

A New Beginning

I was once known as Amyadoptee.   You could find me anywhere on adoption related.  That was four years ago.  A great deal has changed since then but much has stayed the same. 

I am still an adoptee/adoption reform activist.  I am anti adoption and anti abortion.  That is a blog post unto itself.  It will be explained further.  I support the Adoptee Rights Demonstration, Bastard Nation, and The Green Ribbon Campaign.  I support SMAAC, CUB, and Origins (they have groups everywhere).  I also support PEAR.  These groups all believe in the same philosophies as I do.  Again this is coming in a subsequent blog post which will be posted for all to read.

I became unwittingly a non custodial mother. I have two precious daughters. I am divorced and now living with a wonderful man, forever known as Amy's Super Cable Dude, Teen Angel, and Wild Angel.  I am acting stepmom to Amarillo Angel, Heavenly Angel, and Military Dude.  I am acting step grandmother to three other precious angels.  This situation is also a blog post unto itself.  Amy's Ex, the Not So Super Cowboy (He is a good cowboy but more along the lines of not a great husband to me) is now married to someone else.  She has two daughters along with two grandchildren.

I am now a veteran at the mercy of the Micheal E. Debakey Veterans Affairs Hospital.  I suffer from a little known disease called Hidradenitis Suppurativa that resulted from drugs forcibly (AKA following a lawful order) administer during my time in the United States Army during Operation Desert Shield/Desert Storm. 

I am still a woman who has serious issues with the War on Women.  I am a member of the Texas War on Women group.

I am member of the Christian Left.  I would rather my tax dollars go to a Welfare Queen instead of a Welfare corporation. 

I love cats, dogs, and horses in general.  I have my favorites.  

I have been many things such as a letter carrier and a cable installer.  I am also a Jill of all trades.  I am now a college student, studying nursing.  

Be patient with me as I develop this new blog.  It will provide useful links to all of these subjects.  It will also include a list of favorite books, movies, and music.